/ miércoles 6 de noviembre de 2019

Esta es la razón por la que no debes decirles mentiras a los niños

Si estas pensando decirle pequeñas mentiras a tus hijos, piénsalo dos veces porque puede ser traumático para su futuro

La Universidad Nanyang Techological realizó una investigación en donde analizaron a más de 300 jóvenes adultos y su experiencia con las mentiras.

Los expertos concluyeron que decirles mentiras a los niños a temprana edad puede causarle experiencias traumáticas las cuales harán que tengan problemas para adaptarse a su vida adulta.

También comprobaron que los niños a quienes convencieron de hacer cosas a través de pequeñas mentiras desarrollaban malas conductas.

"Descubrimos que aquellas personas a los que les mentían cuando eran niños , tenían una mayor tendencia a engañar a sus padres siendo adultos" , destacó el estudio.

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How to Handle Lies Tip #1: Stay Calm⁣ ⁣ Getting angry with your kid because he lied or did something wrong takes the focus off the issue and instead puts it on how you are reacting to what he did.⁣ ⁣ So before dealing with it, take a breath, count to 10 and stay calm. Make a cup of tea or go for a walk if you need to. Once you’re able to talk to him in a calm manner, go ahead. But remember that giving a lecture about why it’s wrong is probably not going to change their behavior. ⁣ ⁣ If your kids are worried about being punished or yelled at when they mess up, they won’t feel safe telling you the truth.⁣ ⁣ Acknowledge the lie and that it's not ok but then come at the conversation from a place of curiosity. What problem is your child trying to solve by lying. Is he trying to get out of doing something? Has he done something wrong that he's trying to cover up? Or maybe he's trying to fit in with his peers.⁣ ⁣ Stay calm, be clear. Find the why and solve from there. Look for Tip 2 tomorrow!⁣ ⁣ #momlife #parentingtips #lies #kidlife #raisingteens #values #familyvalues #parentingadvice #lifewithkids #truth#hurtfeelings #protective#parentingwin #kidslie #goodkids#teenlife #solutions #familylife#familyfirst #trust #trustissues#trustworthy #curiosity#consequences #staycalm#accountability #honesty #growth #parentcoach

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Aunque "las mentiras inocentes" sean para calmar a los pequeños es mejor explicar con honestidad las cosas para no afectar en un futuro el desarrollo de los niños.

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Posted @withrepost • @ekk_mft I am sharing a post that I saw on Facebook. The post belongs to @drjustincoulson and he explains very well how caregivers should react when their child is lying. "5 Strategies to deal with lying: 1.Remember, it’s normal. Catching your child in a lie can be frustrating but remembering that it’s a normal part of growing up can help us keep calm. We aren’t raising sociopaths! Just little ones whose motivation is to avoid punishment 2.Don’t ask questions that you already know the answer to. If your son is smeared in chocolate cake, don’t say, ‘did you eat the chocolate cake?’ Of course he’ll lie! Instead say, ‘I can see you ate some chocolate cake. You must have been hungry huh?’ Then pause and ask, ‘Do you think I’m pleased or upset? Why? What should we do next time?’. 3.Celebrate honesty. When your child is honest, even if they’ve done something wrong, acknowledge their truthfulness. Say, ‘I really appreciate that you’ve told me about what has gone wrong.’ Help them fix it and then talk about how to do better in the future. And don’t punish them or threaten to punish them for lying. Research shows this will cause more lying in the future.” They’ll be afraid of you. 4.Extract a simple promise. Studies show that children are less likely to lie once they have promised to tell the truth. But be gentle. If they tell you the truth, and then you punish them severely, they will be less likely to tell the truth in the future, promise or not. 5.Model good behaviour. As adults we are all guilty of social ‘white’ lies. Telling a friend that you have an appointment when you simply don’t want to go to their get together, for example. Our kids are looking to us to learn how to behave. Little white lies show them it’s okay to bend the truth" #parenting #kidslie #childrenlie #lyingchild #lie #lying #familytherapy #parentingskills

Una publicación compartida por Dr Justin Coulson (@drjustincoulson) el

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La Universidad Nanyang Techological realizó una investigación en donde analizaron a más de 300 jóvenes adultos y su experiencia con las mentiras.

Los expertos concluyeron que decirles mentiras a los niños a temprana edad puede causarle experiencias traumáticas las cuales harán que tengan problemas para adaptarse a su vida adulta.

También comprobaron que los niños a quienes convencieron de hacer cosas a través de pequeñas mentiras desarrollaban malas conductas.

"Descubrimos que aquellas personas a los que les mentían cuando eran niños , tenían una mayor tendencia a engañar a sus padres siendo adultos" , destacó el estudio.

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How to Handle Lies Tip #1: Stay Calm⁣ ⁣ Getting angry with your kid because he lied or did something wrong takes the focus off the issue and instead puts it on how you are reacting to what he did.⁣ ⁣ So before dealing with it, take a breath, count to 10 and stay calm. Make a cup of tea or go for a walk if you need to. Once you’re able to talk to him in a calm manner, go ahead. But remember that giving a lecture about why it’s wrong is probably not going to change their behavior. ⁣ ⁣ If your kids are worried about being punished or yelled at when they mess up, they won’t feel safe telling you the truth.⁣ ⁣ Acknowledge the lie and that it's not ok but then come at the conversation from a place of curiosity. What problem is your child trying to solve by lying. Is he trying to get out of doing something? Has he done something wrong that he's trying to cover up? Or maybe he's trying to fit in with his peers.⁣ ⁣ Stay calm, be clear. Find the why and solve from there. Look for Tip 2 tomorrow!⁣ ⁣ #momlife #parentingtips #lies #kidlife #raisingteens #values #familyvalues #parentingadvice #lifewithkids #truth#hurtfeelings #protective#parentingwin #kidslie #goodkids#teenlife #solutions #familylife#familyfirst #trust #trustissues#trustworthy #curiosity#consequences #staycalm#accountability #honesty #growth #parentcoach

Una publicación compartida por Parenting In Real Life (@parentinreallife) el

Aunque "las mentiras inocentes" sean para calmar a los pequeños es mejor explicar con honestidad las cosas para no afectar en un futuro el desarrollo de los niños.

Ver esta publicación en Instagram

Posted @withrepost • @ekk_mft I am sharing a post that I saw on Facebook. The post belongs to @drjustincoulson and he explains very well how caregivers should react when their child is lying. "5 Strategies to deal with lying: 1.Remember, it’s normal. Catching your child in a lie can be frustrating but remembering that it’s a normal part of growing up can help us keep calm. We aren’t raising sociopaths! Just little ones whose motivation is to avoid punishment 2.Don’t ask questions that you already know the answer to. If your son is smeared in chocolate cake, don’t say, ‘did you eat the chocolate cake?’ Of course he’ll lie! Instead say, ‘I can see you ate some chocolate cake. You must have been hungry huh?’ Then pause and ask, ‘Do you think I’m pleased or upset? Why? What should we do next time?’. 3.Celebrate honesty. When your child is honest, even if they’ve done something wrong, acknowledge their truthfulness. Say, ‘I really appreciate that you’ve told me about what has gone wrong.’ Help them fix it and then talk about how to do better in the future. And don’t punish them or threaten to punish them for lying. Research shows this will cause more lying in the future.” They’ll be afraid of you. 4.Extract a simple promise. Studies show that children are less likely to lie once they have promised to tell the truth. But be gentle. If they tell you the truth, and then you punish them severely, they will be less likely to tell the truth in the future, promise or not. 5.Model good behaviour. As adults we are all guilty of social ‘white’ lies. Telling a friend that you have an appointment when you simply don’t want to go to their get together, for example. Our kids are looking to us to learn how to behave. Little white lies show them it’s okay to bend the truth" #parenting #kidslie #childrenlie #lyingchild #lie #lying #familytherapy #parentingskills

Una publicación compartida por Dr Justin Coulson (@drjustincoulson) el

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